Rachael Yu and Ray Yu offer some advice

How many of you have problem in relationship? I mean balance the romantic relationship and study. however, it always is a big topic for students, especially international students who do not stay with parents. Most of them have been controlled by their parents for years and relationships are vetoed. By the way, there are more and more students who are in a romantic relationships when they are in school. Although the assessments, quizzes, final and the problems in daily life have around them, they still fall in love when they meet the people who walk into their heart. Today, let us talk about how students balance the romantic relationship with studying.

 We did our interviews with two international students from Trinity Collage and asked them some personal experiences and feelings when they were in this situation. The first one is member in our group – Ray. In his opinion, love does affect study, we need to be with our partner, which will greatly reduce the time of study, and we may not be interested in study when we are with our partner. We break the time in half so it will affect our study.

Learning can complement love

Also, learning can complement love to some extent. Take his as an example. When his girlfriend and he need to study, they will put their phones aside on a table. When there have problems, they ask each other for advice. Two people come together to discuss problems and solve them together. This not only deepens the relationship but also makes learning easier. Meanwhile, when one partner needs to learn and the other partner doesn’t have homework then we need to tell the other half that he might have to review for a while and that might reduce the amount of time I spend with the other half. In his view, it is very necessary because at our age, he thinks learning is more important than love. Then we must inform each other of our situation so that each other can understand and understand us.

Avoid study conflict by communicating your needs

 This is a very good view of love. For him, it definitely affects learning when they have a conflict with their partner the night before an exam. We cannot concentrate on the study and review, whenever we are in this kind of time will be very helpless, while the girlfriend is learning, for us in this age it is difficult to solve the problem rationally. However, love and learning are at two contradictory points. But when we communicate in time with a partner,  we need to let each other know we care about each other. We also have to make them understand now we may need to learn or review at this stage and may not have time to stay with the other half. Therefore, timely communication and reasonableness can be vital.

Respect

 Another interviewee is Alex Chen, who also in a romantic relationship. Stating his opinion, the key of balancing romantic relationship and study is communication. If there have some problems between he and his girlfriend, the first thing they do is show respect to each other, including the problem about wanting to focus in study. Also, the best relationship is each of us can be better and get higher goal, selfishness cannot appear and if people really love each other, they cannot stop partners to become better. For students, studying is the most important thing.

 However, it is ok that having a romantic relationship when people are students. The key point the partners clearly understand the other’s needs.